Without even realizing it, I coined a phrase that has become well-used in our home. I use “The Tangle Test” to see if their hair is thoroughly brushed.
After the girls have brushed their hair, I sometimes ask “Will it pass the tangle test?” If they say yes then I run my fingers through their hair and determine if they have brushed well enough. Sometimes they say “Not yet! Let me work on it some more!” If they didn’t pass the “tangle test” then I send them back to do some more work on it. “The Tangle Test” has been a good way for us to communicate our expectations of brushing out hair in a kind and consistent way.
It also helps to take a few minutes to teach them how to brush their hair. I usually show them by example as I speak my instructions. I show and tell them about spraying a detangler in their hair. This is hard for little girl, under 8 years old might still need help with this part. I taught them to bring me the bottle and ask nicely for help with that part. Next, we teach then to tip their head to the side until their hair swings out and brush out the ends, working your way up to the top. Most little girls take a lot of pride in their pretty hair, so usually they are quite eager to learn how to do it themselves!