I tell my teenagers that they can always use me as their scape-goat. At any time they feel pressured by friends or other teens to do something they know is wrong or don’t want to do, they can always use me or my rules as an excuse.
When friends want my kids to break curfew my kids know they can always say “No way! My mom would kill me! She would seriously blow her top.” I told them they can make stuff up about me to make me seem like a super mean or dorky mom if that’s what it takes. My teen and I both know we have a good solid relationship and that we love each other. I told them I wouldn’t take offense if they said something like that about me in order to side-step a bad situation.
I always remind my children that they can call me at any time during any event or activity if they need help, or start feeling scared or uncomfortable with what is going on.
I love that I can talk with my teenagers about these kinds of situations. Thinking and talking about responses and reactions to scenarios before they actually happen seems to help them deal with those difficult moments much more smoothly.