My husband and I (with some ideas from the audiobook) created lists for each year of our children’s lives and the age-appropriate things they could learn that year. Each year on their birthday they get their new “Certification List” which includes about 8-12 things each year.
Throughout the year we work on training them in these areas with the help of neighbors, friends, extended family, and church groups. We focus on their lists mostly in the summer, but throughout the year as well. When their training in that area is complete, we sign off on their certification chart. Some items, especially as they get older, may have rewards or benefits tied to certification. (We may give them a dollar amount for completion of a difficult task. They may have to certify in certain ways before they are allowed to babysit or get their drivers license.) Once they have certified on a task, we know, as parents, that they are able to do that on their own.
We are sure the lists will change through the years as we add things we have forgotten, as we realize some things aren’t as important as we thought, or as we personalize the list for each child. Below I have attached the list that we created for our children. But please realize that this list is just a rough draft or framework of ideas for our family!
We hope that having a plan for training our children to be independent will help us prioritize and enjoy more teaching moments.