Let your older child be as involved as possible in your preparations for the new baby and take some time to talk about the baby and all the changes.
2. Locate a friend with a newborn and, with permission, let your older child hold the new baby and spend time playing with a newborn.
3. Watch some of your children’s baby movies and look through their baby pictures. Talk with them about how much fun you were, share some of their silly or special baby stories, and show that what babies look and act like.
4. Throughout your pregnancy, talk freely about what is going on with your pregnancy. Find videos and pictures about growing babies. Let them feel the baby move. When possible let them come to some of your appointments, especially the ultrasound appointment.
5. Make sure that you take the time to strengthen your relationships with your older children so that they are secure in your love. This will help them open their hearts to accept another sibling rather than panic about their love status.
6. Above all, keep all conversations about the coming baby positive. Try hard not to complain, worry, or be afraid out loud in front of your children. You can address touchy subjects while maintaining positivity. Keep talking throughout your pregnancy about how excited you are. Here are some examples of topics that you can talk about with your kids:
“Did you know that babies don’t know how to talk? Instead, to let us know what they need, they cry! Sometimes they cry alot when they are sick or hungry, and they depend on us to figure out what it wrong and fix it.”
“New babies can be alot of work! So I am so glad that I have you to help me. You can help me by playing with the baby and holding the baby! It’s going to be such good practice for you for when you become a mommy/daddy!”
“Little babies bodies are so small and fragile that you have to be very careful with them. Always make sure you have help holding them and that when you want to play with toys, you hold it in front of them like this (show them). You can pat them softly like this (show them). And babies sure love kisses and tickles on their toes like this (show them).”