When his anger starts to get out of control, I put my hands up and say “Let’s have a Pushing War!” Then we try to push each other over (if we’re sitting) or push each other up against a wall (if we’re standing). It gives him a chance to express frustration and anger through a safe outlet. After a few moments of anger, it starts to turn into real play, and then gradually morphs into giggles.
After we’re done playing and giggling, then its a good time to give hugs and cuddles. When he’s all calmed down, I can choose whether to address the issue in a calm way, or whether to ignore it and continue with our day (depending on what the problem was). I love how quickly this trick helps my son calm down and helps us reconnect. We play “Pushing War” even when he’s happy and content and its great fun- its just especially helpful when anger takes control of his little body!